"Sticks and stones can break my bones, but words will never hurt me."
A silly child's rhyme, but so very wrong. Time and again, we see how words do dig their way deep into a person's psyche, doing damage as they become entrenched in the mind. Physical injuries heal, but the mental and emotional distress caused by thoughtless, or worse yet, intentionally hurtful words lasts forever.
I learned this painful lesson very young, at my father's funeral. One of the hardest days of my life, from which my mind has mercifully blocked most of the details, yet I remember as vividly as if it were yesterday some of the most careless words people have ever uttered to me. It changed my relationship with those people for all time. I was never able to see them the same way again, because of the additional pain they thoughtlessly inflicted on me. It wasn't intentional - I realize that now, as an adult, although I didn't then. They simply didn't know what to say, and they cast around for something, instead of simply remaining quiet and giving me a hug or telling me they cared. Instead of comfort, they had to fill the quiet space, thereby inflicting further injury, and those words, much as I wish I could remove them from my head, will not go away. Words hurt. And the damage is forever.